It’s no lie that we’re living in difficult times right now. Regardless of what side of the political fence you fall on or where your own personal beliefs put you, it’s turbulent. And if you buy into the whole “if it bleeds, it leads” mentality that so much of the Mass Media seems to hold with these days, it’s hard – and it can be a little frightening. Especially if you’re empathic on any level or if you’re in the middle of your own recovery or healing work.
The last couple of weeks have been a real shit show for me. The healing work’s been hard. I’ve been dealing with a lot of old trauma – a lot of old fear, shame, guilt – coming up. Having grown up the way I did, that stuff runs pretty deep. And to be honest, I’ve been exhausted quite a bit.
In the midst of it though, I’ve been thinking a lot about this guy I used to work with, probably thirty years ago. He was one of those guys who was constantly at the gym, and he always had to talk about his progress. I started asking him about lifting one day. I was thinking about working out because I was a trainer and my job was pretty sedentary. I started asking him about what he was benching and so on, and he said to me, “Y’know, man, it doesn’t matter what I can lift. What matters is what you can lift.”
And I’ve hung onto that.
You take your wisdom where you can get it. And so much of that applies to that whole path of spiritual healing and spiritual recovery work.
It’s important to remember that if this work were easy, it would already be done…
Yesterday, we gathered for a ceremony in the back yard while most of the rest of the civilized world 9-5’ed. As is generally the case whenever we get together, our focus quickly turned to the state of the world.
Our conversations are usually free-form and heavily seasoned with laughter and wry observations. That’s not to say our ceremonies are unstructured or lack direction. The form is there, though largely marbled through the meat, instead of plastered over it like a cast. There’s a necessary sacredness in coming together with laughter, especially in a world which seems to base so much of its existence upon cruelty, greed, conflict, and fear.
Eventually, we got around to the topic of peace, and how we might bring a little more of it into the world. As a great deal of our work is based upon the Medicine Wheel – or at least the version presented to us in the teachings of Grandfather Joseph Rael (aka Beautiful Painted Arrow) – I attempted to approach the question from this perspective.
The path of the Wheel begins in the East, with the rising of the sun. From there it follows the sun through the sky as it passes into the South, West, and North.
Agriculturally speaking, the East is where the seed is planted.
In the South, the garden is tended. It’s a time of expectation and uncertainty. Will there be too much rain or too little? Will the temperatures run to extremes? Will there be enough food for us all come the harvest? Will we have to deal with insects, deer, or rabbits?
In the West, the questions fall away, and the results are gathered in. We fill the cupboards and begin the necessary preparations to take us through the winter.
In the North, the long, dark time of howling winds, warm fires, and taking stock of the past year’s endeavors, we sustain ourselves on whatever we’ve put aside. If we planted good and healthy crops during the spring, that’s what will feed us as the snow piles up and the windowpanes rattle. If, instead, we’ve planted weeds and thorns, then that will be the source of our nourishment for the winter.
Perhaps, then, the process of peace begins with asking what we’d like to feed ourselves and our loved ones with and simply planting it. We can’t transform the crops once they’re in the ground, but we can learn to pay attention to the seeds we’re sewing.
It’s a blessing to have these things in our lives: fruitful and light-hearted conversations with the Elders of our tribe, an afternoon to sit and write after a morning of errands, pruning the squash vines, and removing the surface rust from a jointer.
Maybe this is how we sew a little peace into our corner of the field…
When supper was ended, He took the cup. Again, He gave You thanks and praise. He gave the cup to his disciples and said, “take this, all of you and drink from it. This is the Blood of the New and Everlasting Covenant. It will be shed for you and for all men so that sins may be forgiven. Do this in memory of Me.”
Memory…
It’s a strange thing, but if mine records it correctly, I was somewhere around sixteen-years-old the last time I served mass as an altar boy at Saint Mary’s Visitation Church in Dickson City, Pa. As I write this, that was nearly forty-six years ago, and although I’ve only found myself inside a Catholic church a handful of times since then, if pressed, I can still remember a great deal of the liturgy verbatim.
During my years as a parishioner, I was not only an altar boy, but also a student at the parish grade school, which saw me regularly attending services like First Friday, Ash Wednesday, and Stations of the Cross with my fellow students.
There was a great deal of structure marbled through the meat of my religious upbringing. Confession on Saturday afternoons. Mass and Holy Communion on Sundays – but if the Host gets stuck to the roof of your mouth, don’t you EVER touch it with your finger… and for God’s sake, DON’T CHEW IT! Dietary and sometimes social restrictions on Fridays and High Holy Days. A whole legion of could’s and couldn’t’s, should’s and shouldn’t’s, do’s and don’t’s.
The rules and restrictions, and the rewards and punishments based on one’s ability to comply, brought a sense of order and purpose to my existence. They also brought an almost ever-present sense of guilt, shame, and fear. And while they certainly handed me more than enough of these things, what they never actually gave me was an intimate and personal connection with the presence of God.
That experience arrived decades later when, having just come through a very dark and heavily grief-ridden period in my life, I crawled into what would be the first of many sweat lodges. As I’ve said time and time again since that evening, some twenty years ago, I have talked to God many times, but that was the first time I actually heard Him talking back.
I wish to be absolutely clear that it is not my intention to set Spirituality against Religion. It is my deeply held belief that while many of us might be travelling along different roads, we are all pretty much headed towards the same destination. And if that’s true, what a wonderfully diverse assortment of stories we might share with one another once we get there!
The main point of all this is that aside from the occasional ceremonial guideline and teachings at the foot of an Elder, there don’t tend to be a lot of formalized restrictions to adhere to these days. Certainly, there are signs, if I’m aware enough to notice them; but the most important guidance comes from working to maintain a direct and open connection between heart and Spirit. Living this way has allowed my faith to deepen. It has also taught me to trust my instincts, and to accept with gratitude the portion that I’ve been given.
Some days there’s wood to chop, raised beds to build, stones to gather, or spoons to carve. Or perhaps, I might find myself holding space for someone who’s come to see me; or working through my own recovery in solitude or with my teacher.
When my humanity gets the best of me, it’s often convenient to wish for the times when the do’s and don’ts were laid out a bit more clearly and concisely. But just as my carving continues to evolve through the subtle – and not so subtle – lessons of wood, axe, and knife, my faith also continues to evolve through the subtle – and not so subtle – lessons of instinct, heart, and Spirit…
Bonja the Bodger 